I must discuss what happened last night at the WBW meeting. We had a decent session on calculating your net worth. I had handouts and gave everyone templates on how to build your own balance sheet (per household really). But the discussion that ensued from it came right back to VALUES and subscribing Financial Goals to your values.
This is the part most struggled with, so the best way for me to illustrate what I meant was to discuss my process from start to finish and hope you can apply it to yourself. It was a little daunting as I am a very private person. But when I actually opened up with my process, the feedback was overwhelmingly fantastic! So a big shout out and thank you to all the ladies at Tuesday night’s event.
With that being said, I will lay it out on this blog and hope for the best!
My five values are written on one side of a post-it note. My husband’s five values are written on the other side. It wasn’t as easy getting him to do this exercise but I wore him down, as I can be quite persistent, and we talked about it and gave each other our list in our first year of marriage. My post-it with both our values is kept in my wallet at all times. I’ve had it for 8 years now. My 5 values in no particular order are:
My husbands 5 values are (with permission from him, of course!):
It’s important to know what your partner values so that both your goals are aligned. There will be some values you both share and some you don’t. By knowing them you can help each other stay on track and it’s easier to make decisions if you know it ultimately takes you as a couple/family closer towards both your values.
LESSON 1 COMPLETE.
Now we have the difficult part of attaching financial goals to all of these. This part takes some thinking and digging and introspection. But fun and productive and has permanent benefits. I went about it like this:
à 1 vacation a year before kids.
à After kids, 1 mini-vacation a year just the 2 of us.
à Date night once a month
à 1-2 family vacations a year. (At least 1 will be with my parents/brothers’ and their families and we alternate by going to visit my in-laws who are in Europe/Asia/Australia)
à 1 mother/daughter weekend with my mom. (+ my daughter when she is older).
à Kids’ post-secondary education to be covered.
I want to iterate that the financial goal we give to each value is unique to us. It is important to me that if my children really want to go to a specific university program, that lack of money not be a barrier in them achieving that goal. If they work hard and get accepted; money won’t stand in the way.
à Eat well (Less restaurant. Cook more at home)
à Exercise regularly (Gym membership) and home gym set-up
à I hate debt, so the faster we pay off debt the better for my mental health.
Hope this helps give you some clarity on the exercise. Now you try it! By Lesson 3 we will be calculating our net worth to know where we are and how to get to fulfilling our goals and realizing our values.