Wednesday, March 27, 2013

Day 17 - MC

My tablet has started acting up, so I'm sending this from another computer which is why this entry is so late. Apologies for that.

Tuesday flew by. Now that we have settled into a routine it hasn't been that bad. The only thing to note is I think Ellil misses her Dad more than she lets on. I catch her saying things in her sleep or when she's super tired or when she thinks no one is listening. I've tried my best to explain but I'm not sure how much of it she is absorbing. Raj will be back Thursday so hopefully things will go back to normal for her by Easter.

There are some things I just cannot do. I can't be her Dad. I can try to be there as often as possible, teach her things, play with her, sing her to sleep but at the end of the day she still misses her 'Appa'. I get it. Each relationship offers something different and I'm actually elated that she has cultivated such a good relationship with him.

It's important that she cultivate good relationships with family members including her grandparents, uncles, aunts and cousins. Each dynamic is unique and the more of these strong relationships that she develops the richer her life will be. And she will in turn pass on that skill set to Ro (hopefully) who will also see the benefits of having these relationships and he will want to forge his own as well.

Being from a family that has moved around a lot we never had the benefits of extended family much. Here in Canada it's been the 5 of us forever. We've only recently started to create our own families and that is how our family has grown. And I want my kids to have stories to share about growing up with not just siblings and parents but cousins and grandparents and uncles and aunts and family friends.

Sorry, have to cut this off. Ellil just got up.

One more dawn. One more day. One Day More!

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