Day 8 – MC
I had a wonderful day today as well. 2 days in a row is a treat. Took Ellil and my niece to their dance class and got to bond with one sister-in-law in the morning. After lunch, my brother and nephew came over so I got to bond with him (long overdue) while Ellil and Sathyam played together. And in the evening my parents came over and mum is staying the night so made it easier for me to go through the bedtime routine with each child one at a time.
1 on 1 time is essential with kids. I’m sure we all know this but not only do you have to be cognizant of it, you’ve got to make the extra effort to do it regularly. That’s been a lesson I’m learning now that we have our second. Pre Rohit, there were 4 different ways our immediate family of 3 could hang out. Mom and Dad. Mom and daughter. Dad and daughter. Mom, Dad and daughter. Now, with Ro in the equation, that combination jumps to 9. The four from above plus: mom and son. Dad and son. Daughter and son. Mom and two kids. Dad and two kids. And let’s not forget the fact that we all have to spend some time alone without any of the other members. And each of us also spends quality time with cousins and grandparents and uncles and aunts. You can see how the combinations can get increasingly overwhelming with each additional child.
There’s got to be a law of diminishing returns after kid number X, because the possible combinations would be too large and there just wouldn’t be enough time to run through all the different dynamics and spend quality time in each of these scenarios. I’m sure it’s different for different couples. Some are maxed out at one kid, others are able to juggle more, but there’s got to be a specific magic number after which 80% of the parent population would just subconsciously logout or go into sleep mode. Any thoughts?
I think it's important for each couple to figure out what their magic number is. Suffice it to say, our number is 2.